Many of you will remember Carnie Wilson as daughter of Brian Wilson of The Beach Boys and when she the inspirational phrase of the 90s alongside her sister Wendy and BFF Chynna Phillips: “Hold on for one more day.” Carnie, as the daughter of a celebrity and now a celebrity herself, has lived her life in the limelight, so her struggles with her weight and weight loss have been covered by the media since she was young. Celebrity Baby Scoop has given us permission to share their recent interview with you, as she talks about life as a Celebrity Mom and healthy eating:
Now happily married to musician Rob Bonfiglio and mom to two young girls – Lola, 4 1/2, and Luci, 8 months – Carnie has a new “purpose in life.” The hilarious and down-to-earth actress and singer opens up to Celebrity Baby Scoop about her “really funny” girls, her struggles with weight and the pressures of being “under the microscope,” how she’s learning to balance her career and motherhood, and how Lola is showing signs of carrying on the family business: “Lola is the mind-blower of the whole family.”
CBS: How is baby Luci?
CW: â€œLuci is stunning! Sheâ€™s moving very quickly. Yesterday we were playing on the nursery floor and she picked herself up on her daddyâ€™s legs and stood up. I donâ€™t know about other babies, but that is faster than Lola! I was screaming â€˜Yay Luciâ€™ and she was clapping and saying â€˜Yay!â€™ The development is just amazing. Luci is really sweet. Iâ€™m so in love, again, of course!â€
CBS: How is Lola adjusting to being a big sister?
CW: â€œLola adores Luci! Sheâ€™s had a very good time adjusting, itâ€™s been very smooth. Weâ€™re so blessed with both the girls. From the minute that Lola knew we were pregnant, she was thrilled. The day that Luci was born, she was thrilled. She kisses her non-stop.
Iâ€™ve heard horror stories. Itâ€™s so sad when thereâ€™s that horrible jealousy, but I really think itâ€™s the parentsâ€™ responsibility to introduce way early on that the love is going to be shared. Thatâ€™s what love is for, itâ€™s for sharing! Lola understands that. And I really try to make a point when everyoneâ€™s doting over Luci, I say â€˜And look at Lola!â€™ I really try.â€
CBS: Tell us a funny story about Lola.
CW: â€œ[Hugh laughter] I could talk forever about my girls! Lola is really funny. There are so many stories! She is a riot and such a ham! Just this morning I had a stylist come over to drop off clothing for The Newlywed Game which starts filming on March 4th. Lola would not let him leave the house until he approved her outfit for school! She was wearing a pink v-neck t-shirt with ruffled sleeves, a really cute jean skirt with ruffles and embroidered butterflies, with knee-high flowered and heart socks and high tops tennis shoes and pigtails. It is ridiculous how engaging and loving Lola is.
I have a quote book and Iâ€™ve been writing down her quotes. For instance, when she was only 3-years-old she looked at me and said, â€˜Mama, the spirit of my life is you.â€™ I went â€˜What did you say?â€™ And she said â€˜It is mama! The spirit of my life is you.â€™ Sheâ€™s somethin’ else!”
CBS: Do you think Luci also has a sense of humor?
CW: â€œOh I know she does! I can already tell because you just know a happy baby and Luci is very happy. Sheâ€™s a lot like Lola so far. Lola was born in April and sheâ€™s a Taurus. I love astrology. And Luci is a Gemini, born in June. Luci is more aggressive physically than Lola was.
Iâ€™m a big believer in these videos called Brainy Baby. I had Lola watch Brainy Baby for 6 months straight. From 6 months to 9 months, every single day she had about a half hour of Brainy Baby. Itâ€™s educational, itâ€™s entertaining. Theyâ€™re just the best videos!
So Luci is clapping and yelling and screaming and laughing at these videos at exactly the same parts that Lola did. She just loves to laugh!â€
CBS: It sounds like you love motherhood. Has it changed you?
CW: â€œOh my god, yes, more than anything ever, in many, many ways. Itâ€™s made me grow up and become more confident and secure of a purpose in life. My heart, body, mind and soul is now completely devoted to my children and my family. Preserving the family unit is really important to me.
Motherhood has opened my eyes to my marriage and how keeping that solid is very important for the children. Itâ€™s made me somewhat paranoid and fearful and insecure and guilty as well. Those are the parts that are challenging for me. Because Iâ€™m a working mom, I try to include them in my work. Lucking with Unstapled, we were taping at home and the kids were a part of it. Itâ€™s changed me because Iâ€™ve felt guilty that I have to work, but I have to work. Itâ€™s not a choice. Iâ€™m bringing in the money and thatâ€™s what I have to do. This business that Iâ€™m in – itâ€™s so volatile – you never know whatâ€™s going to happen and I embrace everything.
Being a mom has made me learn how to set priorities in my life. I have new boundaries that I didnâ€™t have before. Essentially itâ€™s very trying because if youâ€™re a good mom, then your children come first. Sometimes thatâ€™s hard because you want certain things for your children, but it canâ€™t always go the way that you want it. And you have to live life on lifeâ€™s terms. That can be hard because I want to live life on my childrenâ€™s terms.â€
CBS: Do you think that good moms should also put themselves first?
CW: “It’s day to day and it will change every day. The balance is working on your priorities and making sure that your priorities are taken care of. And it’s about eating healthy. The thing for me about the eating and the foodâ€¦.it’s a tricky thing for me because I am a cook. Before I had children I used to cook 5 nights a week for my husband. After Lola it became 3 nights a week. Now with Luci I’m lucky if it’s 1 night a week.
Also on my days off, I make sure that Iâ€™ve got time with my family. Then on the weekends we plan family time. Itâ€™s all about spending that time together and doing fun things. With Luci at 8 months, itâ€™s getting easier. With newborns, youâ€™re constantly changing diapers! Youâ€™ve got to be home. Itâ€™s nice now because we get to go out to the farmers market on the weekend, and we go to the mall. Weâ€™re trying to plan a trip to Disneyland or the aquarium. Just to do things as a family means a lot.
And thatâ€™s how I balance it. I just make sure that when itâ€™s time to turn off the phone, I do! I just think the time that I spend with my children has to be quality.â€
CBS: We hear youâ€™ve started with Fresh Diet, a fresh food delivery program.
CW: â€œYes! They’re delivering food to our home every single day. My husband is doing it also. They call it Fresh Diet because it really is fresh food! I’ve done other food delivery services and they were dreadful.
It’s like somebody came into my home and made me dinner right in front of my eyes the way I would make it. I’m just in love with it! I’m getting all my vegetables, protein and calories. I don’t have to worry about a thing and it’s so damn good!
I’m also working with Dr. Oz who is overseeing my food. I’m sending them emails of all my Fresh Diet meals and how many steps I take per day – they want me to take ten thousand steps. So working with Fresh Diet and Dr. Oz is what’s going to get me to my goal. I needed that help and now that I’ve got it, it feels great!
I’ve already appeared once on the Dr. Oz show. It was pretty intense and it whipped me back into shape. And then when Fresh Diet offered to deliver fresh food to me I was honored. It’s just a no-brainer, I can’t think about cooking right now. I just can’t!”
CBS: It sounds like Fresh Diet is actually good food!
CW: “I’m telling you, it’s like somebody was in my home making food in front of my face and with my eye over their shoulder because I’m a stickler when it comes to what goes in my food. I’ve written a cookbook, I’m a baker and I’m launching a baking business. I’ve lost weight, almost 10 pounds. My goal is to lose another 50.
Itâ€™s really important for me to get the word out about Fresh Diet. I want people to know about this. Itâ€™s affordable too. When you look at all the money you spend on dining out, itâ€™s definitely affordable. Itâ€™s just the ultimate of pure, organic and healthy.
Today I took my lunch with me. I had tuna salad sandwich on very healthy whole wheat bread. Iâ€™ve got my broccoli with cilantro snack. Itâ€™s all really good. Delicious!â€
CBS: Why do you think you have struggled with your weight throughout your life?
CW: “I had a blood expert tell me that I’ve been f*cked from the start. She said my pancreas is small and I’ve never been able to digest sugar, and my digestion is all screwed up. I think she’s right. It has nothing to do with my daily choices. I think it’s been my struggle forever. My own personal demons. I’m not an exercise lover and I’m a food lover, and my body doesn’t have a great metabolism. You put all that together and there’s my challenge.
Right now I’m focusing on the delivered food that tastes so delicious. I’m obsessed with food, so I’m just trying to be healthy. Going from 300 pounds to 150 pounds was the biggest change of my whole life. It was scary, and wonderful, and inspiring. But it was also uncomfortable because I felt responsible for everybody that is overweight. There’s a huge emotional component to weight loss.
I’m trying to teach my daughter about healthy eating. That’s the whole point! I can’t deal with deprivation. Forget (edited expletive) that! I want to make the best choices 8 times out of 10.”
CBS: Are you feeling good about your daughterâ€™s food choices?
CW: “I worry about it. I probably worry more than a parent who doesn’t struggle with their own weight. When I see Lola asking for sugar, itâ€™s like pushing a panic button. I go, â€˜Oh no, oh no, sheâ€™s going to be fat!â€ I have to calm down and say, thereâ€™s a way to do this. Thereâ€™s a way to show her that she can have some sugar, but it has to be limited. And it has to be as a dessert, at least most of the time. I want to let her enjoy being a child and have her ice cream and lollipops, but to make sure that she gets that El Pollo Loco frickinâ€™ chicken too. You know?! [big laugh]â€
CBS: Do you feel that the public is too critical about your weight issues?
CW: â€œThereâ€™s going to be people that are critical and usually those are the type of people that criticize people all day long or feel like sh*t inside themselves. Iâ€™m trying not to pay attention to it anymore. Iâ€™m 41 and Iâ€™ve been in this business for 23 years and I know better now. I know not to give it my own waste of space in my head.
Hereâ€™s whatâ€™s important to me: The beautiful friends and family that I have, the blessings that I have and just trying to stay truthful and follow my heart with what makes me happy. It can be hard sometimes because I hate being under the microscope. Yet at the same time, I invited that in. So if I am a messenger, I better be delivering some healthy messages for Christâ€™s sake [big laugh]!
I just keep it real. I am where I am when Iâ€™m there. Iâ€™m not going to hide!â€
CBS: How do you encourage positive self-image and self esteem with your girls?
CW: â€œThatâ€™s probably my favorite question that youâ€™ve asked today. I believe that you canâ€™t compliment and love and express enough with your children. Lola has heard from the start how wonderful, special and what a great person she is inside. I think a lot of the time people focus so much on the outside: â€œOh youâ€™re so cute; You look so pretty.â€™ And of course I do that, because, she is! But every single day I say to Lola, â€˜What an amazing person you are, look at that heart you have, itâ€™s so important to be nice to people and you are such a nice person.â€™ I tell her, â€˜Youâ€™ll have so many happy moments in your life because you are a nice girl, Lola.â€™
She feels proud of herself because itâ€™s not just that sheâ€™s able to write her name, or sheâ€™s able to climb the monkey bars or that she looks so pretty on Christmas Day. Itâ€™s that sheâ€™s engaging and connecting with people and thatâ€™s whatâ€™s really important. I think that builds self esteem. Itâ€™s saying, â€˜Youâ€™re a good enough person to be open and communicate with people and show people who you really are.â€™ Itâ€™s not just what you see is what you get, itâ€™s what you say is what you get. Thatâ€™s what I try to tell Lola and sheâ€™s lovinâ€™ it. She embraces it.â€
CBS: Tell us about your two shows: Carnie Wilson: Unstapled and The Newlywed Show.
CW: â€œUnstapled is running right now and doing very well. Itâ€™s not easy doing a reality show at home but the kids have enjoyed it. Iâ€™ve made sure about that because if they didnâ€™t, I wouldnâ€™t be doing it. The show is about me juggling all the things in my life: Motherhood, career, weight loss, launching a baking business.
The Newlywed Show is in the third season. We will record a minimum of about 65 shows in about 4 weeks. Itâ€™s GSNâ€™s Number 1 rated show. Itâ€™s just a total blast!â€
CBS: How do you feel about the paparazzi? Do they scare your children?
CW: â€œThey donâ€™t scare my kids. But they were rather annoying last time because I was trying to talk to Larry Birkhead and his pretty little girl Dannielynn. They were right in our faces, it was obnoxious.
Itâ€™s kind of a weird, creepy part of this business. But it is what it is. I just say whoever they are, theyâ€™re really creepy, but theyâ€™re paying my rent and Iâ€™m paying thereâ€™s! [Big laugh]â€
CBS: We notice that you are usually happy and smiling around the paps.
CW: â€œI just try to stay nice. Iâ€™m generally a nice person and I like people. If Iâ€™m down the street, if Iâ€™m at the market â€“ wherever I am â€“ I say â€˜hiâ€™ to someone that passes by me. Itâ€™s like a small town type of mentality rather than hide my face. Also, itâ€™s not like Iâ€™m Madonna where Iâ€™d be hounded.
They will wait on my street a few times a month to follow me and thatâ€™s kind of hard. You just donâ€™t have control over the photos and even if you look good, depending on what kind of story they want to plant, it can be unflattering.â€
CBS: What do you think about popular websites like ours that feed the paparazzi?
CW: â€œHereâ€™s the deal, I enjoy the pictures because itâ€™s fun. Youâ€™re going to see the person in their daily clothes which is kind of exciting. I get it that thatâ€™s what people really like to see. I just donâ€™t like the negativity.â€
CBS: Are you a musical family? Are you always singing and dancing?
CW: â€œOh my god, I would say that we are [singing and dancing] at least 50 percent of our time! Every single day! My god, last night Lola made my weep. Sheâ€™s always making me cry happy tears. She has this CD by Raffi. Let me tell you, heâ€™s got a song something like [she breaks into song] â€˜I donâ€™t know if Iâ€™m growing, I wonder if Iâ€™m growing, my mama says Iâ€™m growing, but itâ€™s hard for me to see.â€™ And Lolaâ€™s singing this an octave higher, on key, with soprano. I was weeping!â€
CBS: Does she like popular music too?
CW: â€œShe does. I donâ€™t really listen to popular music with Lola. She likes songs with really good beats. I listen to 70s disco on the radio. She loves when itâ€™s Earth, Wind & Fire.â€
CBS: How about the Beach Boys?
CW: â€œYes, she likes the Beach Boys and sheâ€™ll say, â€˜Itâ€™s grandpa, itâ€™s grandpa, mama!â€™ She loves the fact that my dadâ€™s voice is the high one. When they go [she breaks into song] â€˜Everybodyâ€™s goinâ€™ surfinâ€™ sheâ€™ll recognize my dadâ€™s voice.
Lola is extremely musical. I told her yesterday, â€˜Lola, you are an amazing singer!â€™ When I tell you that this child is gifted musically, itâ€™s sick. I never in my wildest dreams, ever, could imagine that this girl could sing like she does. She can mimic anything.â€
CBS: Itâ€™s third generation!
CW: â€œItâ€™s third generation! I tell her â€˜Now you just have to sing out.â€™ We practice and she imitates me. Sheâ€™s got it!â€
CBS: What happens if she wants to be a rockstar? Will you be supportive? Pull your hair out?
CW: â€œOy vey! Probably a little bit of everything. I will support anything that she wants to do. Lola will probably wind up being a doctor or a scientist because sheâ€™s very curious about the way the body works and how things feel. She loves pouring things into cups and seeing things turn colors. Sheâ€™s very aware and perceptive.
But sheâ€™s extremely musical too. Sheâ€™s also a little bit shy. Once she gets out of her shell, weâ€™ll see how she develops in the next couple of years. This is when I really started coming out my shell, at her age.
CBS: Did you have the musical gift at a young age too?
CW: â€œI did but I think that Lola is the mind-blower of the whole family. I really do!â€
CBS: Will there ever be a Wilson Phillips reunion for us die hard fans?
CW: â€œYes. Iâ€™m trying to get us in the studio in the next few months for a Christmas album. Weâ€™ve never done one. I love Christmas music. My sister and I did an album called Hey Santa and I did my own album. I have so many ideas for Wilson Phillips. We could do Oh Holy Night, Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas, Jingle Bells. I just want to do it with the girls, I think it would be magical. We do have some concerts booked for this year, but we have nine children between us and itâ€™s really hard.â€
CBS: Have you had a chance to send your love to Chynna?
CW: â€œYes I have. Iâ€™m sending my love and Iâ€™m hoping that sheâ€™s feeling better soon. Iâ€™m really emotional about it and I love her with all my heart.â€
CBS: Do you work with any charities?
CW: â€œIâ€™m doing some voice-over work for Haiti relief. Tide has started Loads for Hope. They will donate one quarter million dollars through sales of their t-shirts. Check out their website here.â€
Photos: Carnie Wilson for exclusive use on CBS
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